honii Posted November 26, 2018 Posted November 26, 2018 I am feeling conflicted - I really want v-line surgery and have been so unhappy with my looks because of my wide jaw for many years. I feel like I would be so much happier if I get this surgery! But my parents hate surgery and changing my appearance, I feel as if they would never agree to it, and so I am considering keeping it a secret from them Has anyone kept their surgery a secret, or would it be better to tell my parents? I will be only 19 when I get the surgery and would be flying to Seoul alone. Thank you to anyone who can give advice Apologies if this is not the right place to ask.
greenteacookie Posted November 26, 2018 Posted November 26, 2018 Oh my you just described the exact predicament I’ll be facing (in 1 year’s time since I’ll be flying to Korea then), except I’m getting DES + rhinoplasty! I’m wondering what the right thing to do is as well, as my parents are pretty against plastic surgery and think it’s superficial
gpr Posted November 26, 2018 Posted November 26, 2018 You should try botox first. It is much cheaper and safer. Are you able to pay for the surgery by yourself? I think with V-line surgery you definitely need to consult you loved ones.
luzie Posted November 27, 2018 Posted November 27, 2018 I went to Korea alone for ~2 weeks for DES and hairline transplant. I lied to my parents that I went sightseeing with 2 friends. I felt bad but like you, I hated my looks and I wanted the surgery badly. When I returned home, my family seems to believe that my eyes became swollen due to “the flight back home”. But my colleagues...started to question me!! I simply brush them off saying I didn’t do anything. Some of them believed me, others had doubts but good thing is that they never asked again. Phew. I will have problems when I go back Korea again next year for 2jaw and v line. I need to stay there for a month. I have no idea what lies I’m gonna make up. I know I can’t hide the truth from my family forever. I just hope that when the time comes, all my surgeries were successful and they had no reasons to scold me as I’m an adult already and using my own hard earned money.
fabienne16 Posted November 27, 2018 Posted November 27, 2018 To be honest it's your body and your choice. If you truly want it than I'd say go for It. I've stopped myself for the same reasons as you. But I've finally decided to tell them about my plans... At first they thought I was joking and they really didn't like the idea of me having DES. But after I've explained why I want to have DES and for how long I've wanted, my family came to terms with it. As long as I'm happy. They were afraid that I did it to look more desirable for people. But I'm literally doing this so I look desirable to myself. Maybe If you explain exactly why you want to do this and how you think it will effect your own happiness, maybe they will eventually come to terms with it as well? I just think it's better to tell the truth, jaw line surgery is a pretty big surgery. And I cannot imagine them not noticing it. If I were to have a daughter whom would have done such a surgery and Id find out about it I'd be pretty disappointed. Nevertheless I hope you will eventually make a decision that will make you the happiest. Good luck !!
effy94 Posted November 27, 2018 Posted November 27, 2018 I'm almost 25 and I don't live in my parents house anymore so I don't think I would need to ask them. I told my Mother anyway, since I knew she is not against PS in general. But I won't tell it my father, 'cause he will be really sad and worried and I don't think he would see the difference tbh, haha. In your case it might be a little more difficult, since you live in your parents house I guess and you know that they don't like it. I think it depends on their personality. Personally I would just do it without telling them and tell them afterwards, 'cause then they have no choice but accept it. But it's possibe that they will be really disapointed and unforgiving about it.. If you tell them now, I would not ask for their permission and just say that I WILL have the surgery. In that case it's possible that they will try to convince you not to do it. So like I said it depends on their personalities. I think there is no perfect way and you should decide on that option you think is the lesser evil. Anyway you should always know it's your body and your choise. Not your parents.
fortunecat Posted November 27, 2018 Posted November 27, 2018 Parents will always be worried for their children no matter what... some parents will show it and some won't. Its okay if the surgery went well... but not okay if the surgery is botched. TS is still young and I think TS should ask herself if she is able to handle it if the surgery is botched. Will she have the extra money to go for revision? If the answer is yes, then I guess its okay since that is something that she really wants to do. If the answer is no, then TS should think again.
daffycakes Posted November 27, 2018 Posted November 27, 2018 I kept my primary rhinoplasty from my mom and she noticed IMMEDIATELY that I had something done because I went from bulbous nose to rather pointy one. So in hindsight I think I should have just told her from the beginning so she could be there for support if anything were to happen. V-line might be easier to get away with since you can just say you've been losing weight But yes, I also agree with Fortunatecat. There's a possibility that something might happen. It's major surgery so I would recommend at least having a sibling or friend for support.
christiflora Posted November 27, 2018 Posted November 27, 2018 Speaking from the perspective of parents, I think you should tell your parents. Reason is that they should know where you will be and what activities you will be doing, in case of emergency and problems. It is your body, and you are an adult, so you can make your own decision. All your parents can do is to give you advice or suggestions. However, age 19 and younger is a bit too young to make an informed decision. Not sure that you understand well the long-term effects and potential danger. I would not like to have an elective surgery in a foreign country with unknown medical laws and safety precautions. Since the days of YouTube, I have been watching lots of Asian soap operas. I notice that the female and male actors nowadays all look alike, as if they are made from a cookie cutter. All have V-line face and double eyelids. The men, in particular, look more like females than males. Occasionally, I watch a drama from very old days (20-30 years ago). I notice that the ladies had more masculine facial structure; broader and more square outline and sometimes larger cheek bone, and much smaller and flatter chest. None of them had the features which resemble the modern day actors. Now, when I see an Asian lady who has the cookie cutter look, my first impression is unnatural fake, and I wonder how many plastic surgeries she has had, and how many more routine surgeries they will have to maintain the look. Then again, these young people are the ones with successful surgeries. I have not yet heard or seen the ones with botched or undesirable results. If my daughters had extreme deformities or the surgery were very simple (such as double eyelid or corrective dental), then I guess it is worth the risk for modification to boost self confidence. Otherwise, I would advise them to wait a few more years to do more research to understand the implication and potential danger and to explore best options and safest technologies. Lastly, I would accompany for post surgery care and help fund, so my daughters would not take unnecessary risks with cheap surgeons and facilities. Last thing I want to happen is to have the patient end up brain dead due to incorrect anesthesia.
honii Posted November 28, 2018 Author Posted November 28, 2018 I am able to, yesI am also thinking this, it isn't the most simple surgery. But I would be more worried to get botox since I'm only 18 now...it seems too early
honii Posted November 28, 2018 Author Posted November 28, 2018 I want my surgery for the same reasons so your situation sounds very similar to mine!! Thank you so much for this advice
honii Posted November 28, 2018 Author Posted November 28, 2018 I would get the surgery in the summer and would be moving out in September..but I think this would make me feel guilty a little! Thank you for the advice
honii Posted November 28, 2018 Author Posted November 28, 2018 Thanks for the advice! It would be great to have someone to go with I should definitely consider this
honii Posted November 28, 2018 Author Posted November 28, 2018 Thank you so much for the adviceYes I am young, and I do think that people with wide jaws can often be beautiful, not only people with a small jaw, but for me personally, my jaw is too oversized and has never suited my face, and so it is something I have always wanted to change! I will definitely take all of these things into consideration and also try to view from my parents' eyes and from a mature perspective, thank you
gpr Posted November 28, 2018 Posted November 28, 2018 Effect of botox is not permanent and I think it is good to try it out first to see if sharpness can be achieved. I feel V line is too risky unless you have truly truly square face that is caused by your bone structures. Did you try photo-shopping your photo to see if it would suit your face? I hope you make the right decision for you. Praying for your good results!
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