27fseoul Posted December 10, 2014 Posted December 10, 2014 The topic of what is beautiful will always vary and is different for everyone so, I don't think I've ever wanted to match myself to anyone but my own. I think PS is great to better yourself to be the best looking or best version of you that you can be and in that sense, that makes you stand out and find others to admire how beautiful or gorgeous you are. I think it's wrong when you try to place a certain type of look onto yourself. I don't think it will ever happen and if it did, it wouldn't be in balance with your whole face. I think it's best to aim for symmetry and balance rather than shop around for the "perfect eye shape" or the "perfect nose".
rinda10 Posted December 10, 2014 Posted December 10, 2014 I believe PS could improve life, but only PS is not everything to make my life better. Doing exercise for health, Hang out with friends, Eating nice foods those are also possible to improve life as well. PS is really huge part of improvement, but do not make purpose only PS for improving.
sparrowhawk Posted December 10, 2014 Posted December 10, 2014 my reason is not necessarily that just that i hate the way i look in certain lighting, simple as that. i want to look better for myself. i don't think i'm extremely unattractive either, just that a zygoma/v-line would make me feel more confident about taking candid photos.
moon88 Posted December 13, 2014 Posted December 13, 2014 i want ztyoma and v line on my face...i always use my hair to cover my big and width face, PS may improve the face shape...
sassyqt Posted December 14, 2014 Posted December 14, 2014 I got harassed at work and he was so obnoxious HR had to let him go right after getting my surgery. Plus, deal with 5 months of stress with that scandal and colleagues gossiping about the changes in my appearance. So prepare yourself with a thick skin. I also find it extremely creepy and stressful to have much older men in their 50's and 60's just blatantly hit on me even on the street which was a side effect i didn't think I would encounter. But yes PS definitely improved my appearance and I've went from barely getting a glance from men to having them turn twice to look at me. But remember PS could go horribly wrong so only undergo it if you really hate your features and think even if the surgery fails it would be better than what you have now which is how I felt about my nose.
noitsyou Posted December 14, 2014 Posted December 14, 2014 My workplace is incredibly gossipy and I see hundreds of people per day. Some of whom are bound to notice a change in my appearance. Hopefully I'll be so hot that I won't care but I don't think that's going to happen ._.
sassyqt Posted December 14, 2014 Posted December 14, 2014 I would say you only have one life and only you can decide how to live it. We can't live for other people's opinions. If you're happy with your PS you'll have more self confidence without a doubt. Trust yourself don't expect PS to fix all your problems but if you go to the right doctor with years of experience you most likely will come out an improved version of yourself. I was told I didn't need PS and to take makeup courses instead but I knew that would never change my nose. Despite the backlash from family/work scandal/gossip behind my back I am happy I went through with my decision.
breeez Posted December 15, 2014 Posted December 15, 2014 I've never had PS but here's what I think: You mentioned that you have a deep sense of shame....maybe you don't truly mean it to that extent, but if you do then no one here can give you any kind of answer that can help you. If it is accessible for you, try talking to a therapist/coach before anything else. But that aside, here's my personal thoughts: Physical appearance matters to most of us so you're not alone but it doesn't mean an automatic gate to opportunities. If there is an obvious feature on your face that really could use an enhancement and it's so obvious that anyone can notice it at first glance and it is having an emotional effect on you, then it's not a hard decision to make. The hardest decision will be to choose the right doctor. The other very important factor is having support around you because if not then that in itself can have an emotional strain. However, if this is not the case for you and it's more of a general unhappiness with your looks or maybe surgery can help but it's not the first thing that someone thinks when they look at you then below is my answer: A) Make sure you are happy with yourself in all other areas first. Meaning happy with your day to day life choices and who you are as a person & the lifestyle you have chosen for yourself (whether that means family life, education, career, etc) B) Work on the physical things that you can change without PS first. So that means weight/fitness, hair/skin etc.. and truly put in the effort. C) After all of that, If there really is a feature that truly bothers you then there's nothing wrong with looking for enhancement while keeping it realistic. You need to know why you're changing something and how much it will actually improve your looks if you changed it. The reason why I think PS is the last step is because it will help with your expectations. If A & B are not looked after, you can't fill the gap with surgery. Also the best way to know how much you want/need the PS, is by taking care of all those other things first and then see if you have a legitimate reason for wanting to change something with PS because it is that one last thing that will make a difference but you can't change it yourself without help. Make a logical step by step path to self improvement and follow them and leave PS as the last step if needed. This way once you make that decision it can be a solid one! I think this is the more challenging way of approaching the question of having PS or not. Otherwise you can just go for it like many others do and hope for the best...but your level of happiness and satisfaction with yourself and with the results will be more of a mystery until after it's done.
kpsc Posted December 17, 2014 Posted December 17, 2014 I'm pretty vain and I don't mind! I seriously feel like I feed into this monster inside of me because I'm always trying to change and look better and better. To what point is enough? I don't even know but, I take conservative steps to my changes and so far, I look way better than what I did before. At the end of the day, it's your body and your life.
blahblah1982 Posted December 17, 2014 Posted December 17, 2014 I think you can make a clear distinction based on what type of plastic surgery you are getting. If it's purely cosmetic, then I agree you have to be really sure that you are not getting it for the wrong reasons, and that you're not using it to compensate for another area of your life. If it is reconstructive in nature or to correct a visible disfigurement, than there's no question that a successful operation can greatly improve your quality of life.
shinenim Posted December 29, 2014 Posted December 29, 2014 I second that! Very well said, K! Plastic surgeries cannot fix your inner self. If you don't love yourself in the first place, a dramatic change on your face will not change your life. For me.......... I did liposuction on my abdomen and arms - BUT. when I came home everyone (EVERYONE) said i put on weight and that I look bigger than before (really?) It's depressing for awhile and then I just thought I DID IT NOT FOR THEM ANYWAY. I'm working to tone up my body for now and my liposuction for other areas has been scheduled in 2 months time. Anyway, back to the question.... did it change my life? YES. It did for a positive turn
vanilla-creme Posted December 30, 2014 Posted December 30, 2014 I wouldn't said it had changed my life, rather I felt at least a tad better about the way I look now. Since I was in primary school, I disliked my total flat nose (because mum's nose was flat) and long chin. Which all make my face looks like a moon shape. I've gotten much improvement and confident of my looks now after almost half my fortune spent on PS. All my friends had known me to be a thrifty person but they've never knew the dark side of my secret. And nobody will, because I've kept it all to myself till today.
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