leffen Posted January 9, 2017 Posted January 9, 2017 That's good that you've decided to tell them. Put yourself in their shoes and how they'll feel if you went behind their back and didn't let them know. They'll be disappointed in you and see themselves as failures as parents. Be honest with them and they'll come to terms with the idea when they realize you're serious and it'll make you happy. Since you're waiting 2 years, they may even provide emotional and financial support in the future.
velvettini Posted January 9, 2017 Posted January 9, 2017 I'm very open with my parents about wanting PS, but they're so stubborn and passive aggressive. 'I don't look like a top model either, hun.' or 'Your nose looks like mine. You think I'm ugly, too?' <--- I hate this. Makes me feel guilty. It's your decision in the end. I just think you should prepare them before you walk in after your SK trip and they get a major shock.
lovelypeach Posted January 9, 2017 Posted January 9, 2017 I know right!! hey guys I totally understand you, my parents are both asian and they are 500% against plastic surgery, not only my parents but my whole family LOL I'm already an adult but even if I would go under the knife at 60 they would still be against it XD I can be the ugliest girl in the world they would still tell me I'm the most beautiful and I don't need anything. They are your parents and they love you, they care about you and especially if it's a major surgery that involves bone shaving. So don't try to lie to them, I don't think it's the best option there, tell them first to listen to what you have to say without cutting you, tell them how well you understand them and understands the risks of the surgery. Then if something really bothers you, that blocks you from being happy (so glad it worked for you JaeYoung), something you wanted for years and you've never been so sure about it... Be real with them. If you're sure you'll be happy, not just "oh yeah i'm happy", but you find a true happiness, a true relief from the surgery, you should get it done. It's only natural they would worry and be against it In my case I can't smile properly without thinking "ew what's that ugly face of mine" so holding back laughing and smiling is the worst thing ever for me, as I used to literally laugh and smile constantly If they think about it twice, they make sure the clinic is safe, and then say ok for their child's happiness it's all good Plus if you're an adult, you make wise choices and don't think recklessly, it should be okay Remember of course they want you to be happy, but they are so worried about it Good luck
gats Posted January 9, 2017 Posted January 9, 2017 It'll be tough but definitely tell them well in advance. I think you'll feel a weight lifted off of you once reveal it. It's going to be tough on them as well, you're their baby and for you to want to undergo risky life altering elective surgery, I hope you can see why they'd want to talk you out of it. In the end though, if you're set on getting it, I imagine they'll support you in the end. Maybe one of them will accompany you as well given you are getting major work done.
granges Posted January 10, 2017 Posted January 10, 2017 Had the same problem. I am in my early 20s getting surgery in seoul soon. My mom freaked out on me when I told her I was getting surgery . She told me I was already pretty etc She made things difficult at home for me at first because I wanted surgery. I had to put my foot down and tell her that this is something that I really want to help my confidence. I wanted surgery since I was 16 and I told her that when I was 16 and she told me wait until I was an adult. Well guess what? When I became an adult she still didn't want me to get surgery..she thought I would change my mind. You have to do what you want to do to make yourself happy. She's now accepted that I am getting surgery and is somewhat supportive. Your parents aren't going to always agree with your decisions as an adult..thats life.. It's your life...you have to make you your own decisions for your happiness.
veronicalawrence2 Posted January 11, 2017 Posted January 11, 2017 Oh my gosh, I just got the shivers from this. It is something that I will forever regret I think, I definitely did the ultimate disrespect by not being honest.
maliboo Posted January 13, 2017 Posted January 13, 2017 My parents were ok with me doing my double eyelid surgery because my mom also did hers recently. but I want to do vline and my nose in the fall and I probably can't get away without them knowing.. ultimately though I feel like our parents will always love us no matter what and they'll come to accept it once they see us as individual people separate from their selves. Being honest is probably best... They might be judgey at first but mostly bc they love u and see themselves in us and would be sad thinking we're rejecting parts of them But guys my real fear is seeing relatives. All my relatives are Asian and they will for sure notice! How do u deal with that? Chinese new year is coming up soon
lovelypeach Posted January 13, 2017 Posted January 13, 2017 Hiding is not the best thing to do so yeah you can't really :/ telling everyone is the most difficult part Are you going to see them after your surgery or before? Or both? If you see them both before and after they will notice the change in your face especially if you do those 3 surgeries at the same time
blobvy Posted January 13, 2017 Posted January 13, 2017 I have a problem with this too. I'm legally an adult but I live with my parents. The first surgery I plan on getting is bullhorn lip lift (not in Seoul but in Europe in another country from where I live). I would say that the surgery is 50% for cosmetic reasons and 50% functional reasons. I'm considering bringing my mom with me when I have the surgery, it might make her feel better if she meets the doctor and learn more about the surgery. But how do I tell her about this?! I think that's the hardest part, to bring it up in the first place. But I feel a little bit better seeing this thread and seeing how many of us are going through the same thing. Hopefully we will be able to tell our parents before having surgery, because I do think that's the best thing to do.
oreocream Posted January 14, 2017 Posted January 14, 2017 My parents don't care, as long as it's my own money.
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