perceval Posted January 23, 2018 Posted January 23, 2018 Thank you for reposting the pictures since I couldn't see them- but I can't find anything wrong? What you described in the first post, I cannot see. It's okay to fix minor things that you want improve but having that type of attitude might not even change after getting a whole bunch of surgeries, as Gats said. Maybe take a more positive perspective on the way you look? We're not trying to prevent you from doing what you want. You have the freedom to do as you please with your face. But having a good outlook will improve things for you, rather going through a whole bunch of surgeries that you think will satisfy you. Sorry for bursting the bubble.
granges Posted January 24, 2018 Posted January 24, 2018 You are so gorgeous. Naturally! I wouldn't even get surgery if I were you. Look into NON surgical options please . Let me tell you something, I had surgery at your age when everyone told me not to do it because I didn't need it, and I didnt listen, and I had to suffer with the consequences by getting a revision. Once you have surgery. It's a possibility that you will have to have more surgeries in the future to maintain what you got done, and what if you don't like what they do to your face ? What if you have nerve damage? You can't get back what you were naturally blessed with. With that being said, I think you need to talk with someone professionally. Look into NON surgical options and please do not let anyone carve your beautiful face. If I thought you needed surgery I would say so.but trust me. You do not. No one tells you that surgery does not make you happier. Its the inside that counts the most . Being happy and having a healthy mind frame and loving yourself is important.
baileylab Posted January 24, 2018 Posted January 24, 2018 you look gorgeous!! only thing you need to fix is your pimples so that doesnt need plastic surgery. Fix the real medical issues first because it's odd your face feels painful and you're tired all the time. assuming you're gettin enough sleep and eating right.
lonekitty Posted January 24, 2018 Author Posted January 24, 2018 I'm sorry but there's nothing anybody can say that can sway me in any way--it's simple. I know the truth. If a random person complimented me in real...hell, that'd be enough to make me reconsider things, think that my weight loss wasn't for nothing. But as of now I only have years of rather cruel experiences (trust me back then I didn't even have issues yet these things still stood out because I never got complimented)...like, the anti-makeup, angelic best friend of my entire life saying that my undereyes were horrific and that I really need to wear cover-up over them (this was literally the only thing I have ever heard her say negative about anyone's appearance--that's how I know it's that bad), or a kid guessing me and a friend's ages and she was "20", her age, and I was "60". Take the guy in class I enjoyed talking to...when the topic of smoking came up in class he laughed and turned to me and said "That's why you should stop smoking!" even though I hadn't taken a drag in my life. I look like a smoker. A new friend betrayed me because she saw how I looked without make-up on in regular lighting. Could sit here recounting these experiences all day and have virtually no experiences to suggest it's not even that bad. And being 21 is no detractor; I look much older so naturally I ought to take measures to remedy the issue. It'd be okay if this was natural and I was that old, but I'm still young, and this means I'll probably look like the ugliest woman once I actually do age. Oh. And that guy's no scammer, I've known him for over a year and facetimed him so much, even saw his family in the background once during a gathering. Back then he had a girlfriend and he just wanted to be friends. It's offensive that you guys are reading into it. My judgment's not that bad. >.> Of course I'll decide against anything overly invasive for now, but I'm going through with something, that's for sure.
granges Posted January 24, 2018 Posted January 24, 2018 I definitely think you need to stick with something non surgical. What people said also had got into my head. But do you ever think that maybe you might have surgery and the results might not be what you expected and people will still have something negative to say about you? Are you going to let what people say dictate your life and how you feel about yourself ? Im telling you these thing because I was hard headed at 21 and I didn't care what no one said. I NEEDED surgery in my head. Don't be that person. Non surgical is the best way to go. Then give it a year or so and if you like the way you look..then maybe ...maybe consider something surgical.
perceval Posted January 24, 2018 Posted January 24, 2018 I respect that decision of yours. I get it. Like I said, we're not trying to prevent you from doing what you want to do. We were just giving you our honest opinions. Just please try to be more positive and things should go well for you on your journey.
granges Posted January 24, 2018 Posted January 24, 2018 This is my honest opinion, I think you could benefit from this.. NON SURGICAL NOSE JOB NON SURGICAL VLINE SKIN TREATMENTS GET YOUR EYEBROWS WAXED LEARN HOW TO APPLY MAKEUP WELL EYE LASH EXTENSIONS DYE YOUR HAIR CHOCOLATE BROWN AND GET SOME EXTENTIONS TO MAKE YOUR HAIR FULLER AND LONGER I WOULD ALSO GET A NICE WARDROBE AND WALA !! YOU WOULD LOOK LIKE A MODEL
granges Posted January 24, 2018 Posted January 24, 2018 AND IF YOU WANT , I WOULD CONSIDER DIMPLEPLASTY YOU HAVE GORGEOUS EYES AND DARK HAIR WOULD LOOK BEAUTIFUL WITH YOUR LIGHT EYES. AND DIMPLES WOULD LOOK EVEN BETTER
lorihmatthews Posted January 24, 2018 Posted January 24, 2018 I know you don't want to think anything is wrong but I believe you have Body Dysmorphic Disorder, coupled with anxiety and depression. Any doctor who agrees to any procedure or surgery would be deemed unethical. I guarantee that anything you have done will not satisfy you. Please speak with a professional counselor or psychiatric medical professional right away.https://adaa.org/understanding-anxiety/related-illnesses/other-related-conditions/body-dysmorphic-disorder-bdd#
lonekitty Posted January 25, 2018 Author Posted January 25, 2018 I like your enthusiasm, lol. Great suggestions. It'd be a miracle if I ever looked good. Well, ultimately, I don't really care about making myself up+my eyelashes are actually dark and long naturally (u prob can't see them), I just want to look youthful and just...natural. The vline sounds wonderful for me too, I want that baby face, buuuut I don't know if it'll be *enough*. I know I want to fix my nasolabial folds/lower cheeks for sure ASAP, that area is just what kills me each time I look at photos (literally would prefer severe cystic acne over it). And what would the non surgical nose job do for me? Oh...and now that you brought it up...My hair is another thing that depresses me greatly. Fine as a baby's, looks nice and fluffy and flows like princess hair, glows gold in the sun, for 3 hours after shampooing, but quickly gets weighed down and looks like...a dark, thin, flat, frazzled mess that ages me, as you see in all of my pics. I always want to hide it. I'm at a loss as to what to do with it. The dye job's a hard choice...most of my body hair is blonde+I don't see very many darker haired individuals with my hair texture. I'd definitely have to get extensions to thicken it up. Not sure if there's surgical fixes though so this is prob not the forum to discuss it. Input is welcome tho; are extensions the only option? And stop with all the BDD stuff, Lori. I appreciate the care but...it's just...no. High school me was perfectly happy and then I suffered years of people's abuse without any positive reaffirmations and experiences. It wore me and my confidence down. TBH tho I'd be fine if I got the sagging issue fixed+my undereyes, and looked vibrant. Oh, and therapists won't help. Already tried going to a few (aka, all of them) at my school last year and they literally just sat there asking me generic questions for hours and dispensing false sympathy like artificial candy pills to sedate me. Nope. Never again.
iamme_ Posted January 25, 2018 Posted January 25, 2018 Therapists just want to make hours. If something takes few weeks to get better, they will stretch it out for years. I would say best thing would be to invest in something that you actually love. Sport?Game?Exercise? I really wish I actually cared what people say, but I only do things if I really want to do. Do surgery if you really want to do it just for yourself, not to impress people. Having said that, I think you may benefit from 2jaw surgery.
lonekitty Posted January 25, 2018 Author Posted January 25, 2018 I know--that sucks! Anyways the desire to invest in anything else has become pretty much nonexistent because of my issues. It is what it is. Argh...I think I said earlier not to suggest things that I can't really afford, it only kills me out to know I'd have to do something so extensive. If only my insurance would cover jaw surgery. It's interesting tho. In high school my jaw hurt a lot, sometimes for hours at a time. Heck. Even the jawline itself hurts and feels sore when I rub it. Makes me wonder if my abnormality will become an issue in the longterm. Oh yeah, my jaw is kind of something I'm lowkey paranoid about. There is a 50/50 chance that a guy's comment about a girl's jaw being "too severe for her to be pretty" was referring to me. Okay, I'll go ahead and lose more weight and see how it affects my face. I'll get a job and see how much I can save up.
iamme_ Posted January 25, 2018 Posted January 25, 2018 Do you clench/grind your teeth? Bruxism? stress indicators yet causing jaw/gum issues.
lonekitty Posted January 25, 2018 Author Posted January 25, 2018 Hmm. I really don't know? About 2 years ago I did clench my teeth a lot, caused me quite a bit of pain, but haven't recently caught myself in the act. With that said, I do have a lot of issues with insomnia and anxiety at night+waking up 3 hours early and not being able to go back to sleep, and often my face/jaw area feels very uncomfortable. Then again that's the same issue with the rest of my face--especially the midface and undereye area. Always in pain. The doctor didn't listen to my concerns and told me to take allergy pills every day without taking any tests. Ugh.
perceval Posted January 25, 2018 Posted January 25, 2018 Yeah, from what I'm reading here, you could possibly be a good candidate for 2 jaw surgery. And not just for cosmetic reasons. I'm not too sure. But I think you could benefit from it. It is pretty expensive to begin with though.
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