meowiex Posted August 12, 2018 Posted August 12, 2018 I know everyone has their own reason to get plastic surgery and it is their choice. But i want to ask honest opinions about what they think about me wanting to get plastic surgery. The reason behind it. Growing up and until now being 28 years old. I always had issues of ever loving myself. I grew up with parents who were not emotionally supportive. And my dad was emotionally abusive to me. from middle school to high school, i was always insecure of my face because my jaw was very prominent and a girl always made fun of me. Then when i went into my college My oldest brother got addicted to drugs and alcohol and also abused me as well for so many years. and even though I have a sister, she looks down on me alot. So i can never confide into her as she doesnt understand the things i went through. all i ever wanted was to be accepted and loved. So i thought getting plastic surgery to help with feel more confident about myself. and then moving to a new location and starting over. So I'm working really hard at a full time job, where it's graveyard shift and there's days when i get overtime. so i can save money and travel to korea to do plastic surgery. Although I am just starting to save. I'm really trying my best.. I feel that if anyone wants to get plastic surgery and it makes them happy. Them I'm all for it. As for me, this is the reason why i wanted to get plastic surgery.
loserkid Posted August 12, 2018 Posted August 12, 2018 If it makes you happy, go for it. For me I’m Asian but born with the large African kind of nose and I just want it reduced
daysuntilpretty Posted August 12, 2018 Posted August 12, 2018 You’re very strong to survive through such an unfortunate upbringing ~ I hope you find peace through surgery, but please like the others said, do lots of research and also understand that although you can improve your appearance, your self confidence relies much on you and improving your inner mind and accepting yourself! And if you are searching to be accepted and loved, I hope you can find it in this community and feel free to pm me ~ lots of love!!
pear-orange Posted August 12, 2018 Posted August 12, 2018 I think plastic surgery is a worthwhile investment, but if your goal is being genuinely loved, it's going to take more than a change in appearance. beautiful people are admired by many, especially by the opposite sex. research has also shown that beautiful people have better opportunities in their career. but usually they have many same-sex members being jealous. when you get PS and turn gorgeous, you might just find jealous women who try to bully you too. make sure you keep your PS a secret as there is stigma against people who got PS. honestly, I think it's impossible to make everyone love you. there are always haters, no matter what we do. My advice is, get surgery to open more doors in your life, not to please others
missy_sana Posted August 12, 2018 Posted August 12, 2018 (This was originally a private message to the OP, but I have reposted it here, so that it may help others who are also feeling insecure about themselves.) In regards to plastic surgery, as others have warned, please do your research and be aware of anything that signal red flags, because a botched surgery or one that doesn't meet your expectations will cause you more misery, and possibly start you on a never-ending pursuit to perfection. On an emotional level: My sympathies are with you, @Meowiex, for what you've been feeling your whole life. It sure is hard to deal with family who never cared or respected you, but understand that it's not your fault. Your family members each have their own personal issues, but instead of taking ownership of themselves in a responsible way, they would rather lash out, harm and blame others to justify their own feelings and actions. It is by sheer unfortunate luck that you happen to be the target of such cruelty, neglect and disrespect. Although we cannot choose the family that we started out living with, however, we now have the power to walk away and start a new life that our family never chose to live. You must learn to love yourself and realise that you don't deserve to be treated poorly, whether by family, friend, work or partner. This is important, so that you don't become desperate for someone to love you or develop needy behaviour that invite people to react negatively towards you. Examples of such behaviour that stem from inadequacy include: wanting plastic surgery, substance abuse, prostitution, getting pregnant/married quickly, slitting one's own wrist, throwing tantrums, posting numerous selfies (or even nude pics) online, fishing for comments from friends or strangers to validate oneself... just to name a few in general. When you understand the reasons of inadequacy in yourself or others (which you already do), put a label on it and also put a label on your feelings, then you have the power to maintain self-control in bad times, and move on to do better things towards healing and success. Do other things that would help you validate yourself and bring peace to your soul, which could be as obvious as retail therapy and beauty treatment, but also try deep meditation, long walks outdoors, watching beautiful scenery at sunrise/sunset, joining a support group, listening to inspiring podcasts, listening to affirmative hypnosis incantations on Youtube, volunteering for a charity event or even getting a new pet that will show you the love and attention that you are longing to give and receive! I have gotten a lot of comfort from YouTube videos by inspirational coaches such as Craig Kenneth, Susan Winter and Tony Robbins. Craig Kenneth and his mentor Margaret especially talks about insecurities in adults caused by dysfunctional families and a childhood full of abuse and neglect. If there's anyone or anything worth following for the extra emotional support, please feel free to add to the list.
mlydzz Posted August 12, 2018 Posted August 12, 2018 Any reason is fine its your body though i dont know why posts like these are even here.
missy_sana Posted August 13, 2018 Posted August 13, 2018 @mlydzz, feel free to ignore the opinions and sentiments in this thread, and if you still don't get it, then maybe ask yourself why you are even here on this forum.
elijahspk Posted August 13, 2018 Posted August 13, 2018 Hey girl, I have had similar issues with my toxic father but thankfully that's not in anyway related to my wanting for ps. When I was in my teens my face looked good but later on, in my early twenties something changed with my face and it doesn't look that good now. I also know for the fact that with increasing age facial features keep on changing, call me a psycho or whatever but I don't want to age & I always try and do things that can make my face look more youthful than ever. However, there are few things that can possibly be changed via surgery only, hence, my search for ps in Korea. Hope you too find your way and good luck with your research.
versehg Posted August 14, 2018 Posted August 14, 2018 Hi @Meowiex, I agree with pear orange and also other saying that you should get surgery for yourself. And it is also true in society, people usually like pretty girls and handsome guys so you will get more chance. Maybe in workplace it is not like that but generally in everyday life people are nicer to better looking people. I also think nowadays lots of people are getting plastic surgery and you should think about what you want. Lots of people will judge because they don't know you but lots of people will support you as well and mostly don't care. So you should not mind other people too much
amali9099 Posted August 28, 2018 Posted August 28, 2018 You are brave and brave to share. Thank you! Regarding your story and why and why I am doing this - me too in all of it with some small changes (like it was one parent in particular, and my sister is a blend of both your siblings). Plus some ****ty relationships - especially the ones where my ex cheated because I wasn't "hot" enough. May we find the peace and love that we are looking for @Meowiex
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